Dear woman, here’s why you saw no blood during your first intercourse

Dear woman, here's why you saw no blood during your first intercourse.


First of all, although it’s normal to have bleeding the first time you have sex, it’s also normal not to.

Science shows that a vagina has a thin tissue that stretches across part of the opening. This is called a hymen. Sometimes when a woman has vaginal sex for the first time, her hymen gets stretched open, which can cause pain or bleeding.


But it’s also true that the hymen can naturally stretch from things like sports, using a tampon, or putting fingers or other objects in your vagina. And many people are born with very little hymenal tissue to begin with, so it may seem like they don’t have a hymen at all. Whether you bleed the first time you have sex or not, you and your hymen are completely normal!

For starters,virginity can be a confusing subject for many people, but there’s no reason to feel weird or ashamed if you didn’t bleed the first time you had vaginal sex. 

Some women will bleed after having sex for the first time, while others will not. Both are perfectly normal.

A woman may bleed when she has penetrative sex for the first time because of her hymen stretching or tearing.

The hymen is a thin piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina. For some women, it may stretch or tear when they start having sex.

Having a stretched or torn hymen does not necessarily mean a woman has lost her virginity.

The hymen can also stretch or tear quite easily before a woman has sex for the first time, through: activities such as horse riding and other sports. Using tampons or even masturbation.

A woman may not know her hymen has stretched or torn, because it does not always cause pain or noticeable bleeding.

In case you get concerned about bleeding after sex, you can seek advice from the nearest health clinic.
Why? Because in some cases, bleeding after sex might indicate a health condition like a vaginal infection or endometriosis.

Like we said in the beginning, it’s normal to bleed while having sex for the first time.

However, if you keep noticing bleeding as you have sex more often, then you’ll probably want to get things checked out by a gynecologist.

Although you might have heard that you can “lose your virginity” by using a tampon, doing the splits, or riding a horse, that isn’t true, because those activities are nothing like sex (trust me). If you do bleed after having sex for the first time, it might be because your hymen has stretched or torn — but it doesn’t “break.” And you might stretch or tear your hymen at other times, doing totally non-sexual activities, and notice a bit of blood then, too.

Some people are born with more hymenal tissue than others — and some people with vaginas are born without a hymen at all. And while certain descriptions of the hymen make it sound like a solid tissue that you can “break” — like the Kool-Aid man bursting through a wall — that’s really not how it works. Along with being stretchy, for the vast majority of people, the hymen doesn’t completely cover the vaginal opening. In the rare cases that the hymen does cover the entire vaginal opening, it’s called an imperforate hymen. When this happens, people need to have minor surgery when they begin menstruating so that their period blood can exit their body.

One common reason that some people bleed after the first time they have sex is because their vagina wasn’t very lubricated and the friction from sex caused an abrasion — this also means that sex might feel uncomfortable or painful. To avoid this, make sure that you’re very turned on before you have sex — spend time on foreplay and maybe oral sex or fingering instead of going straight to P-in-V penetration.

Therefore, if you saw no blood after losing your virginity, it had nothing to mean you weren’t virgin. Like we said, different people have different amounts of hymenal tissue and different amounts of lubrication — and more than half of people with vaginas who’ve had P-in-V sex didn’t bleed after their first time. So if you didn’t bleed, don’t stress — if the moment was significant to you, it’s still significant.